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[I didn't write this... Got it from a friend, but I think it's funny (and mostly true) and dedicate to it all the guys out there who need a little help "getting the girl(s)"...]

“The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women” And What To Do About It…”

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes…

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A “Nice” Guy
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to “nice” guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple… Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense, and it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince” Her To Like You
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like… but she’s just not interested? Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you… YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”. Think about it. If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”. Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER. Don’t get me wrong here. You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things”, think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her…

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It’s only NATURAL when this happens… That’s right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”. Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax. There’s a much better way…

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful woman he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re more attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young woman. But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how…

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet… And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea… Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I’m going to blow your mind… A woman ALWAYS knows what you’re thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help! And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating… Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything. If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help. [This is where the author tries to sell you his book... if you must know, go to Double Your Dates dot com.]

2009 has been an exciting and challenging year for most people, but for us, especially, it has been a whirlwind of change. At this time last year I was recovering from a double mastectomy and flat as a pancake. In January I began reconstructive surgery and finally finished my last procedure in November (tattoo touch-ups to follow in a couple weeks). Not once have I regretted my decision and the peace of mind that it has brought me has been a tremendous weight lifted off my shoulders.

This year, I’ve also experienced a relationship status change, moved to a new house, new ward, and new stake, and the girls attended a new school this fall. I’ve met new people and made new friends. All this newness has left me a little discombobulated. I do miss my old friends and my old ward and hope to renew some of those old ties in the New Year. Amid all the change, I’ve managed to find some stability and strength in my family. They have been an incredible support and I love them more than I can express in type. My girls have also been a source of joy and constant entertainment. They are so fun and I love every minute (except the ones that I’d like to string them up by their toes, but thankfully they are fleeting).

Though all this change has been challenging and chaotic, it hasn’t been all bad. I love my new life. I love that my stress is my own and things in general feel simpler and more manageable. I’ve loved the time that I’ve spent alone in quiet reflection and “me time”. And I’ve loved the quality time that I’ve spent with the girls.

All things, good and bad, must come to and end. 2010 is a new chapter and I’m ready! No doubt the New Year will continue to bring change and growth, but I believe it will also bring strength and stability. Cheers to 2010!

~Teresa Sharp  11/98

The leaves are falling and littering the ground
With colors of yellow and orange and brown.
The weather is cooler and the crisp air is chill,
And there’s a bit of frost in each windowsill.

The season has changed. It’s a new time of year;
A season of giving; A time of good cheer.
Family and friends seem to be on your mind,
And everyone everywhere is considerably kind.

The table is set with all the best dishes.
The turkey is golden and smells delicious.
The rolls are warm. The stuffing is steamy.
The salad is fresh and the potatoes are creamy.

When you finally finish the last bite of pie,
You loosen your belt and let out a sigh.
Now that dinner is over you can’t say a word
‘Cause you’re just as stuffed as the turkey bird.

~ Teresa Sharp   1996

Girls hate when guys say that they’ll call and then don’t.
You promise you will, but we know that you won’t.
You say, “Let’s get together and do something sometime.”
But we know that you tell every girl that same line.

You ask for our numbers, but then never call.
We then wonder why we ever told you at all.
You build up our hopes and make us start dreaming.
But deep down inside, we know you’re just scheming.

You think that you’re charming, with slyness and guile
When you tell us we’re pretty and have a great smile.
And you think that we’ll fall for you and get week in the knees
Just ‘cuz you’re handsome and say, “Pretty please.”

And we do, every time. You’d think we would learn.
Someday we’ll have wisdom and the power to discern.
We’ll discover your plots and uncover your schemes.
We’ll tell you, “No way!” or, “You wish!” “In your dreams!.”

But until then, we’ll be sincere and naive.
When you say that you’ll call us, we’ll trust and believe;
‘Cuz I hate to admit it, but it really is true,
That without guys around, we’d have nothing to do.

So yesterday I avoided scrubbing bathrooms in favor of scrubbing floors. As you know in order to scrub the floor, you have to first be able to see it. Hence, I picked up toys and and dirty clothes, stuffed animals and scraps of paper including dozens punched circles (Boston’s favorite new craft). I did a quick once over with the broom which actually took about 30 minutes. My entire main floor is tile and Pergo except for my bedroom, which I really like. I think it’s fairly easy to maintain and feels cleaner than wall to wall carpet, especially with kids spilling and tracking everything in and out.

I’m going to plug the Hoover Floormate because if you don’t have one, you don’t know what you’re missing. This baby mops for you! It’s as easy as vacuuming and I think it does as good of job as I can do on my hands and knees, and it does it in a fraction of the time. As if that wasn’t great enough, the wet pickup function works so well that you have virtually no drying time! I wouldn’t kid about something like this. It’s one of my must have cleaning tools. After having one, I really, seriously can’t live without it. (Well I could, but would refuse to scrub floors on my hands and knees, and despise traditional mops. I think they just redistribute dirt; gross!)

So in a few hours, my house smelled better, and I could run around barefoot again and like it. I went to bed last night feeling only slightly guilty that I hadn’t accomplished cleaning the bathrooms, yet again.

This morning was typical. The girls got up for school and commenced to dress and eat. Before breakfast was over we had a bowl of cereal spill on the floor, a 1/4 gallon of milk dumped out on the table, which then of corse splattered all over the rest of the tiles in the dining room that had previously managed to escape the cereal, and a plugged up toilet. I decided to go ahead and hurry and clean up the floor old school, hands and knees style. I’d deal with the toilet when I got back. We quickly finished getting ready for school and I dropped them off just as the first bell was ringing.

When I got home the toilet had drained itself and I, hoping it had also unplugged itself, flushed it. To my dismay, it was still clogged. If that wasn’t enough, the chain came loose and stuck under the flapper, which means the water did not stop when I expected it to. In a panic, I yanked the lid off. While trying to grab a near by towel with my foot and avoid getting spilled and splashed on, I managed to lift up the float, fish out the chain and smash down the flapper. It was only a mere matter of seconds, but it was long enough for the toilet to overflow, flood my bathroom, and start trailing out the door. The towel I’d managed to slide across the floor was soaked and though it managed to contain most of the water from flooding into the rest of the house, it was starting to loose the battle of containment. I grabbed another towel from the laundry room and sopped up the hallway. Once everything was under control I washed my hands and took a deep breath.

I needed a plunger. I scooped up Willow and we ran to the closest store and bought the cheapest plunger, which still cost me $6.99. From there, things were pretty routine. I unplugged the toilet, finished sopping up the water, and threw the towels directly in the washing machine. Then I scrubbed the floor again.

It was at this point in time that I wondered, “Why do I even bother?” On the bright side, I hadn’t already scrubbed my toilets yet! But I couldn’t no longer procrastinate the inevitable. Three toilets later I felt better, if not a little triumphant. My floors were clean yet again and my bathrooms smelled like… well, whatever fresh, sparkling, clean smells like. Maybe it’ll last a whole week?! A couple days? At least until the kids get home from school…

I don’t know why I wait so long to write. Man, I feel like I need to catch up on everything. I definitely need to write about my trip to England. It was one of the most amazing places I’ve ever been. The history alone was overwhelming and the beautiful country was breath-taking. I have lots of pictures that I need to post. One of these days I’ll get to it.

The girls started school three weeks ago. They are adjusting to the new school and every day I hear how strict it is and how much they miss their old school. I’m half tempted to switch them back, but I’m hoping that it’s just jitters that will go away in a few more weeks. Boston is doing pretty good in Kindergarten. (She has the cutest teacher.) I think she is enjoying her first grade school experience. Hunter’s teacher said that she is “a joy to have in class”. Mercedez is still adjusting a little. She misses her old friends.

The biggest news of the week; I’m finally getting nipples. Yay! My surgery is set for Wednesday. I’m a little nervous, only because I’m so used to not having them, I think it will be a little weird readjusting. It’s been great not having to wear a bra, and not having to worry about looking “cold”. I’m not sure what to expect. I do know that the doc is going to make them twice as big as they will be. He said that they shrink up by about half. That will be kind of funny. I think the worst part is that for the next couple weeks I’m not supposed to wear anything tight or restrictive (including a bra), so I’m just hoping not to poke anyone’s eye out. So much for not looking “cold”. LOL I’ll keep you posted on the procedure. I’m actually looking forward to this next little bit of magic.

I’m finally feeling settled again after being gone all summer. Though I’m far from being organized. I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a myth. I’ve yet to get the kids to bed before 8:30 (an hour past “bedtime”). And we haven’t started any extra-curriculars yet. I want to get the girls back into piano, and when it cools down a little, tennis and gymnastics. Mercedez is dying to try out fencing and Hunter wants to be in the chess club at school. As much fun as they’ll all have, all that means to me is a lot of running around…

It’s great to be home. I’m really starting to enjoy it here. I missed my friends over the summer. However, I do miss the mountains and the cool nights (and my family). It’s funny how fast you can forget just how HOT it gets here! Wow. I’m melting!

Once again, Natalie captured the girls different personalities. The girls were feeling particularly modeseque this day, hence their coy smiles.

Photos by Natalie

1. Time passes slower and the days are longer
2. There is more grass than cement
3. People call me ma’am
4. I saw a moose, an eagle, and a deer within the same hour
5. There is no traffic
6. There are more trees than people
7. I can see the milky way cut through the night sky
8. My hair smells like camp fire smoke after a barbecue
9. There is still virgin landscape
10. People wave back *and smile*
11. The stars are so bright that I can almost see my shadow
12. My kids can be wild and no one can hear us
13. Barbed wire fences don’t block the view
14. It actually gets dark out at night
15. The air is so crisp and fresh, it feels like its never been breathed

We left Arizona Friday afternoon, later than I planned, which is usually the case, and drove straight on to Idaho. The girls were good as always and we made it with only 2 pit stops. My kids are awesome!! We got to my parents house around 3:00AM. The girls were excited to be here and everyone seemed to catch a second wind. I think we all finally went to bed around 4:30.

Saturday we mostly hung out at in the house and recovered from our trip. It’s been raining here for the past three weeks, so everything is lush, green, and beautiful. Usually by this time of year, things are starting to turn brown and yellow. I’ve taken some great pix (click here). I took Mercedez to town to get a few things for camp. She left on Monday for 4-H camp.

Mercedez and Tasia

It was in Alpine, WY for 3 days for 8-11 year olds. She had a fantastic time and met a lot of new friends. She’s already excited to go next year. Anyhow, we got her a few pairs of pants and some shoes, then loaded her up with snacks and candy since you can’t got camping with out pleanty of surgary treats.

Monday Boston and Hunter were getting ready to ride the 4-wheelers with grandpa. I was in the kitchen when Hunter came in and said, “You’re not going to like this, come see.” I assure you, no mom wants to hear those words… I followed her outside and saw the 1st casualty of the summer:

The 1st Casualty of Summer

Boston was on the 4-wheeler waiting for grandpa. It was running and in reverse, so when she hit the gas, she also hit my van… Total bummer. My lease is up in October and I was so close to turning it in in pretty good shape. I’ll have to get this fixed before I trade it for something else. Boston was pretty upset about it. She cried big tears and told me how sorry she was then gave me a big hug. There was nothing else to do but hug her back. I told her that she couldn’t drive the big one and that she needed to not push buttons when she wasn’t supposed too.  Of course she promised that she wouldn’t, but I know better.

So far we’ve had a great time. I would like it to dry up a little though. We’d like to get a garden planted and I want to move some rocks up on my hill, just for fun. I’m hoping that a project like that would get the girls excited about “our mountain”. I’ll keep you posted on that.

My friend and I decided that we needed to go down the river before I left for the summer. A day of relaxing on a tube for four hours in the sun sounded heavenly! We packed a cooler with sandwhiches, drinks, and snacks and where on our way. The river was fairly quiet, but we still had a few hecklers. Some were shouting, “Show us your nipples!” I cracked up laughing. Neither one of us gave up the goods, but I have to admit that I was tempted. Being in the condition that I’m in, I was half inclined to give them something to think about, LOL.